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Posted in Disability

Adaptation and Embrace

3_jesus-heals-man-by-poolMy earliest memory of hearing the question was during first grade. I don’t remember the context exactly, but it might have been while I was walking to lunch or playing foursquare. Or maybe I was asked while I was waiting for the school bus or while running in the large grassy playground. I was asked the question throughout my childhood years but I was not able to perceive the difference that prompted the question.

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Posted in Tribute

We Buried My Father on Monday

DAD BW HEADSeasons. My Life and Times With My Father

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My earliest memory of my father was at play. I was a little less than 3 years old living in Denver. We had a backyard of thick green grass that weighed on my feet as I ran. I had a small football in my hands determined to escape my dad as he chased me. He would grab me laughing from behind only to twirl me around and let me go to restart the race.

A few years later we were in Ft Worth wading in Lake Worth and the new game was me jumping into the water to clean off the sand so we could leave. I would promptly emerge wet only to be covered head to toe with sand as I slid and rolled my way back to the picnic blanket forcing me to return to the water. (I have a grandson who plays that same game very well.) After about five of these cycles my Dad picked me up at the water’s edge and then straight to the car.

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Posted in Leadership

This Leadership Thing

Snip20180916_1My phone rang at 9:30 p.m. one Thursday evening. I recognized the caller immediately as my boss, a senior director. The caller said, “Mike, you have a new assignment. Beginning tomorrow morning, you are the new QA [quality assurance] lead for our next-generation product, with a staff of fourteen. The project is eighteen months old and has missed all its delivery dates. Your team has worked twenty-six consecutive weekends.”

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Posted in Book Reviews, Leadership

A Leadership Model That is Different Than the World

A pivotal scene in Disney’s Lion King occurs between Simba and Rafiki as Simba looks at his reflection in the water.Snip20180705_1Rafiki: Look down there.
Simba: {Disappointed} That’s not my father. That’s just my reflection.
Rafiki: Noo. Look … harder.
Rafiki: You see … he lives in you.
Mufasa: {Quietly at first} Simba . . .
Simba: Father?
Mufasa: Simba, you have forgotten me.
Simba: No. How could I?
Mufasa: You have forgotten who you are, and so have forgotten me. Look inside yourself, Simba. You are more than what you have become. You must take your place in the Circle of Life.
Simba: How can I go back? I’m not who I used to be.
Mufasa: Remember who you are. You are my son, and the one true king.
Simba: No! Please! Don’t leave me.
Mufasa: Remember…

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Posted in The Second Half

This Parenting Thing

As a father, I have been very intentional with my four children—especially when it comes to making a way for them.

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This is the season when my relationship with them transitions from parent-child to adult-adult. I must admit, I miss them as children. In retrospect, those child-rearing years were so fleeting. As I’ve thought about this transition, I’ve realized that our peer-to-peer relationship has moved us from directive interactions to collaboration. Continue reading “This Parenting Thing”

Posted in The Second Half

Forward

Person by person, my generation is passing away.

And there are so many of us. Each day, ten thousand members of my generation reach retirement age (Pew Research).  Funerals are constant among my peers.

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It is an easy conversation starter when I approach someone my age and ask about plans for retirement. Most have no plans. They have not even checked their Social Security accounts. But they always say that waiting to draw Social Security will give them a larger payout. To which I reply, “It depends. It depends on how long you plan to live.” And that’s the part we have no assurance about.

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Posted in General, The Second Half

Making Aging Positive

The 2014 Atlantic Article returns interesting observations. “Many of my older-adult patients wanted to make a difference in the world but, finding no role for themselves, were treated as socially useless. Having created a new stage of life, the next step is to make it meaningful.”

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“Many of my patients wanted to make a difference in the world  but, finding no role for themselves, were treated as socially useless.”

“According to some researchers, ageism is more pervasive in our society than negative stereotypes based on gender, race, or sexual orientation.”