I am not sure why but I had a school day in late Dec. Normally schools are on Christmas break by that time. While sitting in my sixth grade class at Inez Foster Elementary I received a note from the school office that my baby sister was about to be born. I am not sure if all the other siblings had the same news because they went to another elementary school than I. I announced to a friend on the playground at lunch that I had a baby sister arriving… He replied with disbelief and said I was lying. This was a strange response.
But I never wavered in my belief and Kim arrived home and was immediately loved by the whole family. Every family needs that one that everyone loves. I was a different kind of cook than my Texas kin…. having been raised with a California bias. As a child Kimmie always liked a simple breakfast I would cook for her. Corn tortillas with melted butter and plain omelet style scrambled eggs Kimmie could not get enough of.
The birth of our daughter Steph marked many transitions in our life. Per my usual trend I was unemployed just after Stephanie was born. That was 3 for 3. But this time I used the opportunity to launch a graphic design business which in turn opened the door for me to work at Apple testing graphic design applications. I have made a career in tech ever since. The cascading effect finds my entire family engaged in technology careers.
I was a house husband and full time caregiver for both Andrew and Nathan. I had great fun for a couple years while Kathy worked full time to pay the bills. I was unemployed (again) when Andrew was born 30 years ago.
Kathy’s 15+ hours of labor came to an end with an emergency caesarian section Saturday afternoon after 5:00 PM. All the doctors were new to Kathy and I. The obstetrician, the anesthesiologist, and the pediatrician were on-call as our doctors were taking their Saturdays off.
Kathy came to me after a week of feeling different (but different in a familiar way). She said, “I am pregnant.” “Wow,” I said, “this is really going to change my life.” Clearly, Kathy comes out much better in this narrative than I. We had finally arrived at a very comfortable life and career in Austin, TX. I had not had to balance our checkbook for 2 years. I was pedaling downhill with the wind in my back. As they say, “40 never looked so good.” Yet, here was an event that would change our family forever.
I proposed to Kathy only 3 months after she noticed me on the UC Irvine campus. Four days after the proposal she said “Yes!” And we were married 6 months later. We married on a Rainy and Sunny day in Irvine, CA 35 years ago. Kathy wore a wedding dress which she made (with her mother’s help). The material cost $100 and required no bridal shop visits. Our wedding rings were matching silver bands with a sculpted Cross and Dove.